Self Development Strategies


I share how I work on myself – it’s HACK time!

My Autopsychotherapy Toolkit

HACKS: What is autopsychotherapy, and how do you do it?
A look at Dabrowski’s key dynamism that allows us to resolve inner conflict, and deal with the process of disintegration. I share my personal autopsychotherapy toolkit and how I use conflict to transform moments of crisis into ways to becoming more of my authentic self.

Four Journaling Principles

HACKS: Autopsychotherapy  journaling disciplines.
Journaling is a important part of working on yourself, but some of the advice on ‘how to journal’ is rubbish! I share my four personal principles that help me get the most out of my journaling time.

Meltdown Magic

HACKS: Making the Most of a Stressful Situation.
I share how I make constructive use of those times when I’m throwing a complete emotional wobbly.

Are You A Thought Dancer?

HACKS: When Ideas Become Too Much.
Are you prone to rapid ideation, or ‘stream of consciousness’ epiphanies? Have you been told by others your thoughts are “too much”? Here’s a way to make use of those brilliant ideas, without making life difficult for others.

Navigating Difficult Conversations

HACKS: When Talking to People is Painful
Do you feel misunderstood, or find talking to other people can be a painful experience? I give my best communication hacks for avoiding arguments, misunderstandings, and awkward moments.

Aligning Future Actions to Values

There’s not much point in going through disintegrations or understanding the theory, if you don’t WALK YOUR TALK. You can intellectualise Dabrowski’s work all you want, but if you don’t make changes in the way you act, you’re not bringing your values to life, and you’re not being authentic. If you’re serious about personality growth, you should be just as serious about behavioural change.

I use a process flow called “Pedro Pascal’s Kittens of Theological Uncertainty” to help me think about how I will behave in the afterlife… in a way that’s authentic!

Disintegrating in a Relationship

When you’re disintegrating, it doesn’t just affect you! I talk about the impacts a disintegration can have on a relationship, and how you might want to approach talking about your experiences to your partner.

Art in Development

This video explores five benefits of using art as a tool in personality growth, and discusses the role of creativity in positive disintegration.

Plus you get to watch me finger-paint to music. True story.

New Approach to CBT

Have you ever tried Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and found that it just doesn’t work?

By by putting CBT into a process flow and filling the gaps, we can beat negative thought patterns with a better success rate!